The same love story keeps ending the same way. Start writing a different one.
The same fights. The same fading passion. None of it is random.
One honest hour reveals the hidden patterns that quietly sabotage your relationships — and hands you the strategies to change them.
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SOUND FAMILIAR?
Finally understand why your love life keeps repeating itself.
From the inside, it never looks like a pattern. It usually feels like bad timing or just plain bad luck. A string of “almosts” and “what-ifs” — but quieter than anything you’d even call a problem:
- Another promising start that fades exactly the way the last one did.
- Another midnight post-mortem, retracing every message for the moment it turned.
- Another month of wondering why this keeps happening to you.
And it’s not for lack of trying. You’ve listened to the experts, read the books, raised your standards, taken breaks from the apps to work on yourself and swore things would be better next time. You put in the work and did everything you were told. Yet still, somewhere underneath, you have a feeling that you’re still missing something.
Here’s what four decades of clinical practice taught Dr. Griggs: it’s not a character flaw, you didn’t do anything wrong and most importantly: it’s not chance. The fear that you’re broken or unlovable — or that it’s your fault — is almost never the truth.
What repeats isn’t an inner defect or an error you’ve made. It’s an involuntary, subconscious pattern quietly hijacking your choices — deciding who draws you in, when you pursue and when you brace, and, most costly of all, which red flags you rationalize away and which green ones pass unnoticed.
“Great on paper. They’re always great on paper.”
“Mostly I’m just tired of starting over.”
“I do everything differently every time. It still ends the same.”
It has run unopposed for years — different person, same third act — for one reason: no one has ever put what you need to know about yourself directly in front of you. That is precisely what HighRQ does: it brings your personality and relationship patterns into full view — and tells you exactly what to do about them.
“…maybe the constant is me.”
THE REPORTS
Choose how deep you want to go.
The Core Personality Report tells you what the assessment found — where you’re strong, where you’re getting in your own way, and what to do about both. The In-Depth Individual Report tells you who you are inside a relationship — the way you attach, what you need from a partner, and what quietly sets you off — with a year of strategies to act on all of it. That’s how you stop spending irreplaceable time, money, and heartache on the wrong person. You gain clarity on exactly what you’re looking for — so finding the right person stops taking years of trial and error. And when the right person shows up, you have the necessary tools to connect with them in a fulfilling way.
Core Personality Report
What the assessment found — your strengths, your growth areas, and strategies for each.
Get the Core Personality Report — $9.95
One-time — no subscription.
Your RQ score.
Your score and classification, and what they mean — the foundation the rest of the report builds on.
Your areas of strength.
The relational qualities that come naturally to you — and the specific ways each one builds trust, closeness, and compatibility.
Your areas for growth.
The patterns most likely to limit closeness or create friction — and why each one happens, so your effort goes where it counts most.
Your personality narrative.
A nuanced portrait of your personality as a whole — tendencies, motivations, strengths, and recurring patterns, drawn together into one coherent picture.
Strategies, matched to you.
Targeted actions for each growth area, grounded in validated psychological research — plus books, articles, and apps matched to what each area needs.
Yours to keep.
Downloaded to your device and saved in your account — there to return to as your relationships and self-understanding evolve.
In-Depth Individual Report
Detailed breakdown of who you are in a relationship — what you need, what triggers you, and what to seek in a partner — plus twelve months of unique, custom-made strategies designed to break the patterns that keep leading to the same ending.
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Everything in the Core Personality Report — plus:
Your archetype, named.
The report opens by naming your archetype: a precise, plain-language portrait of who you are as a partner — and the through-line every section after it sharpens.
Your Partner Guide
A section addressed to your future partner, not to you — how to love you, what triggers you, the best ways to connect — written to be shared once things get serious.
What to look for in a partner.
The qualities that genuinely fit yours: steadiness, shared values, a compatible way of handling conflict. And the incompatibilities worth walking away from — so you stop finding out the hard way.
Your emotional patterns, decoded.
What attracts you, repels you, overwhelms you, or quietly shuts you down inside a relationship — and how to regain control of each.
How you handle closeness.
Exactly what happens as a relationship deepens — whether you reach, brace, or run — and the tools to keep closeness from hardening into conflict.
Your next twelve months.
12 months of strategies matched to your specific areas for growth — delivered up front, not drip-fed.
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FROM THE PREMIUM REPORT
Custom tools — built just for you — ready to use immediately.
Topics past
small talk.
Conversational tools built based on your assessment results — so you can stop discussing the weather and start focusing on whether this person is actually a good match or not. No more spending months on the wrong person.
Your
Partner Guide.
The instructions you could never quite articulate — exactly how to love you, and what to avoid — written so the right person finally gets it right.
Micro-practices,
matched to you.
A few minutes a day, built from your results — steadier moods, easier conversations, and the quiet confidence of being ready when someone worth it shows up.
Coach Pro — your on-demand coach.
Ask it anything — a first date post mortem, the latest silent treatment, or a fight you just don’t have the strength for again. Coach Pro is available 24/7. Every answer is based on your unique RQ and personality results, so the guidance is tailored specifically to you — never a generic script.
Add Coach Pro — $14.95/month
One month at a time — charged once, never auto-renewed.
How it works
Measures how you handle conflict, intimacy, trust, and much more.
63 dimensions of how you actually relate — not one of a few types.
Validated psychological research you can act on.
Every dimension is grounded in decades of research on attachment, communication, and emotional regulation.
AI that delivers, not decides.
The psychology and the scoring are Dr. Griggs’s. AI packages and delivers your report in plain language.
THREE STEPS
Three steps. One honest hour. No homework.
01
Answer honestly.
When taken unhurried — most people take 30 to 60 minutes. It’s thorough because it has to be: the truth lives in the details that quizzes skip.
02
Unlock your report.
The Core Personality Report unlocks your analysis. The In-Depth Individual Report gives you the tools to find, build and nurture healthy, fulfilling relationships — the right way.
03
Rewrite the pattern.
Read where you’re strong and where your relationships keep snagging, then take action on the strategies that come with each. Built based on your unique personality and RQ score — yours to keep.
THE FOUNDERS
The clinician and the engineer behind HighRQ.
Steven Griggs, PhD
Founder · Clinical Psychologist · Author
Dr. Steven Griggs is a clinical psychologist who earned his credentials from the same graduate program founded by Carl Rogers — one of the most influential psychologists of the twentieth century. For most of his career, people sat across from him and expressed the honest truth about their love lives. Somewhere along the way, he stopped being surprised: different people, same heartache, confusion and suffering. HighRQ is what he did about it — every dimension it measures earned its place in his office long before it reached a screen.
More than 10,000 clients.A clinical career spent watching the same stories repeat — and learning what actually changes the outcome. Not simply theories about people in general: thousands of hours across from real individuals, seeing what actions succeeded and failed — through his own eyes.
From his framework to your report.His framework does the scoring; AI only writes it up. The thinking is his. Every threshold, every pairing, every strategy traces back to a judgment he made long before the software existed.
A career from across the couch.One question, pursued for over four decades — what actually makes relationships work? He studied. He noted. He refined. The HighRQ personality assessment is where the culmination of his knowledge and experience landed.
Steve Ahlstrom
Founder · Chief Technology Officer
Steve Ahlstrom is a software architect, and his half of HighRQ presented a unique technological challenge: take a framework a clinician spent a lifetime refining, and rebuild it in software without losing a degree of its precision. He’s been Dr. Griggs’s close friend since 1969 — so when it came time to trust someone with a career’s worth of insight, the shortlist was one name long.
40 plus years building software.A career of systems that had to work — engineered into a platform that just does. No shortcuts under the hood: the same discipline he brought to systems where failure wasn’t an option.
Security as a habit, not a feature.In the systems he built for a living, protecting people’s data wasn’t a checkbox — it was the job itself. Your answers are encrypted and never sold, because that’s the only way he’s ever built anything.
Security where money moves.A career guarding payments and data for Fortune 1000 companies — the standard your answers are held to. The habits formed where breaches cost millions now protect what you tell us.
THE DIFFERENCE
Why HighRQ soars where quizzes and apps sink.
You’ve probably tried a few of these. Quizzes can be fun — sometimes even telling. Apps are built for introductions. AI will talk with you about anything, any hour. Each covers a piece of the picture. None was built to measure the whole of it from a clinician’s framework — and that’s exactly the job HighRQ was designed to do.
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Dating appsApps
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HighRQ
Conceived by a clinical psychologist
Measures 63 psychological dimensions
Explains why it keeps happening — not just what type you are
An analysis written from your answers, not a stock description of your type
Strategies paired to each area for growth
Grounded in validated psychological research
One-time purchase — no subscription
Your answers encrypted, never sold
Built in, at full depth ·Some products offer a lighter version ·Not typically part of the product
The pattern’s expensive. The price to see it isn’t.
Get the In-Depth Report — $19.95
One-time purchase — no subscription. Available when your RQ is in the 51st percentile or higher.
QUESTIONS, ANSWERED
The questions everyone asks first.
What can I get without paying?
The full assessment is free. Results include:
- Your RQ score, with its classification and meaning
- Your three greatest areas of strength
- Your three largest areas for growth
The paid reports take your unique findings and make them actionable — the Core Personality Report at $9.95 or the In-Depth Individual Report at $19.95. One-time purchases, no subscription. The In-Depth Individual Report is available when your RQ is in the 51st percentile or higher.
Where do I see my RQ score?
Your RQ — Relationship Quotient — appears the moment you finish the assessment, shown with its classification and a plain explanation of what it means. Both paid reports build upon it:
- Core Personality Report — Breakdown of assessment findings and how to address them.
- In-Depth Individual Report — Detailed analysis of who you are within a relationship — and actionable ways to use it.
Who can see my answers?
Only you. Your answers are encrypted, never sold, and never used for anything but your report. The platform was built by an engineer who spent his career securing payment systems — that’s the standard applied here.
I’ve taken personality tests before. How is this different?
Most personality tests sort you into a type from a couple dozen questions, then stop at the label. HighRQ is built differently. The assessment measures 63 psychological dimensions — how you handle conflict, trust, communication, emotional regulation, and closeness among them — and every answer is scored against the clinical framework Dr. Griggs developed in practice, not a generic formula. AI writes your results into plain language, but the scoring logic is entirely his. And nothing ends at a label: every finding comes paired with specific strategies, so you leave with things to do — not just things to know.
YOUR MOVE
One honest hour.
Your relationship patterns revealed.
HighRQ reports give you the missing information that’s holding you back from relationship success: who you are inside a relationship, what you actually need, who is compatible with you — and a year of strategies to act on it. Your next relationship doesn’t have to end the same way as your last. Take the first step to finding fulfilling relationships today. The next move is yours.
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Results include:
- Your RQ score, with its classification and meaning
- Your three greatest areas of strength
- Your three largest areas for growth
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