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HighRQ
A new solution to familiar problems: Dating that fizzles, or a love quietly drifting.
HighRQ helps you resolve the unconscious patterns holding you back — and recognize the strengths that draw the right people in.
Which describes you best?
For me.
Different person, same ending — and the hidden reason you can finally see.
Discover the strengths that draw the right people in — so you stop losing the ones worth keeping.
Uncover your blind spots before they blindside you.
Recognize what’s really driving your choices — so your patterns don’t pick your next partner.
For us.
You love each other — but the same few tensions keep circling back.
See how you truly fit — strengths, friction, and the parts worth talking through.
Find what keeps pulling you both back into the same argument — so you can finally move past it together.
A shared picture you build together — not a test either of you can fail.
Why HighRQ
He spent a lifetime understanding relationships — so you can understand yours.
HighRQwas conceived by Dr. Steven Griggs, a clinical psychologist, over a career of four decades and more than ten thousand clients. The assessment rests on two things at once: validated psychological research into what predicts how relationships unfold, and what he watched play out in real relationships, year after year. Research tells you what tends to be true. A career’s worth of practice tells you what actually happens.
Not a quiz made for an app. A method from someone trained in the science of building tests.
Dr. Steven T. Griggs
FOUNDER, HIGHRQ
The lineage.
Dr. Griggs earned his PhD at the graduate program founded by Carl Rogers, one of the twentieth century’s most influential psychologists.
The training.
His doctorate included psychometrics: the science of designing and validating psychological tests. The HighRQ assessment is built on that science.
The practice.
It was refined over a clinical career spent mostly in one-on-one and couples work — grounded in what he saw happen between people, not in theory alone.
What makes the assessment different.
Whatever your relationship goals, it all begins with the assessment.
63 dimensions, not a type.
Most tests sort you into one of a few types. HighRQmaps the full range of how you actually relate — the way you handle conflict, build trust, give and take closeness. That’s the resolution it takes to see your real pattern — and actually use it.
Validated psychological research.
Each dimension is grounded in validated psychological research into what predicts how relationships actually unfold — attachment, communication, conflict, emotional regulation. It’s depth built on evidence — so you can trust it enough to act on it.
AI that delivers, not decides.
Your answers don’t get fed to an algorithm that decides who you are. The psychology and the scoring come from Dr. Griggs’s framework; AI’s only job is to turn that depth into a clear, personal read — pointed at your life.
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Take the assessment.
Free, 30 to 60 minutes, at your own pace.
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Unlock your report.
Your RQ score, and a personalized analysis of how you relate.
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Put it to work.
Clear strategies paired to each area for growth.
Not quite ready for the full assessment?
A quick glimpse at how you show up in 5 areas that are critical for relationship success.
- Free personality read
- A clear first look at your strengths — and what’s quietly working against you
- Takes 3 minutes
FREE
5 Traits That Matter
Illustrative
For understanding yourself.
It usually isn’t a flaw — it’s a pattern in how you connect. And a pattern is something you can finally see.
Why it keeps ending the same way.
HighRQlays out the pattern you bring to every relationship — so you finally see it coming.
The worth you keep discounting.
HighRQshows you what you actually bring to a relationship — so you stop settling for less than you’re worth.
The part you can’t see yet.
HighRQnames the blind spot gently — and shows you what to do next.
“I really thought this one would be different.”
“I should just be grateful someone’s interested.”
“Everyone says I’m great — so what’s the problem?”
When did we stop feeling like a team?
I don’t know how to bring this up without a fight.
I don’t want to point fingers. I just want us back.
For the two of you.
Somewhere along the way, the same few tensions started circling — and the easy closeness got a little quieter.
See how you fit.
HighRQ shows you the two of you as a pair: your real strengths together, and the friction worth naming.
Break the loop.
HighRQ surfaces the loop you keep falling into: who reaches, who pulls back, and what keeps it circling.
A shared picture.
Not a verdict on your relationship — a clear, honest picture you build side by side.
FREE
The Conversation Guide
The Conversation Guide
The hardest part isn’t the report. It’s the asking.
You’ve decided to ask your partner to take this with you. The Conversation Guide is for exactly that moment — a short read on making the ask go well, written for the one who goes first.
- When to bring it up — and when to wait.
- How to frame it as an invitation, not an accusation.
- How to handle uncertainty from your partner.
For therapists & coaches.
A deeper assessment to use with clients — built on the framework Dr. Griggs developed across four decades of clinical practice, and delivered as a clear, shareable read you can work from in session.
63-dimension client assessments
- A structured picture of how a client relates
- Attachment, conflict, communication, regulation
- Depth you can bring straight into the work
Shareable, structured reports
- A clean, organized read you can hand across the room
- Built to open conversations, not bury them in jargon
A complement to your practice
- Informs your clinical judgment — never replaces it
- The framework surfaces the pattern
- The work stays yours
Questions, answered.
How long does the assessment take?
About 30 to 60 minutes. It’s thorough by design — that depth is what makes the report worth reading.
What does it cost?
The assessment is free to take. Unlocking your full report is a one-time purchase — you’ll see the details on each report’s page.
Can I try it before paying?
Yes. Five Traits That Matter is a free, three-minute read of where you stand — a clear first look before the full report.
What if my partner won’t take a “test”?
It isn’t one. The Couples Report is built as a structured conversation you do together — nothing to pass or fail.
Is what I share private?
Yes. Your responses are encrypted, never sold, and we collect only what the assessment needs — nothing more. For something this personal, that isn’t a footnote; it’s the point.
Is this therapy?
No. It’s a structured way to understand yourself and your relationships — a complement to professional support, not a replacement for it.
Romantic or otherwise, it all begins with the same assessment.
Whatever brought you here — a pattern you’re tired of repeating, a relationship you want to keep, or simple curiosity about how you love — clarity is the part you can choose. Understand how you connect, and every relationship in your life gets easier to build. It starts here.
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